COVER STORY
WIFEY Is A Lusty Celebration of the Hotwife Life
You can keep your wedding ring on
2025 is officially the Year of the Hotwife.
Search trends show the internet has grown steadily obsessed with the hotwife archetype: She’s horny, she’s hot and she’s proudly nonmonogamous. Generally speaking, mainstream porn usually prefers the risqué stereotype of the adulterous housewife who can’t resist fucking her stepson while his dad is away on business. The hotwife still sleeps with whoever she likes, but there is no betrayal; her husband knows all about her extracurricular antics. In fact, sometimes he joins in, or watches eagerly with no trace of a cuck’s humiliation.
Now, there’s even a porn brand dedicated to hotwives: WIFEY, the newly-launched brainchild of Vixen Media. It’s an interesting take on mainstream porn, and one that pairs hardcore sex scenes with behind-the-scenes vignettes and in-depth interviews about ethical nonmonogamy. It offers all the intimacy of an amateur sex tape, but with big-budget production.
Despite only being launched in March, WIFEY already has a few de facto faces. Famed MILF and award-winning porn performer Serenity Cox jumped at the chance to be involved in the project. “I was instantly intrigued,” she tells me. “It combined my love of amateur content creation and telling the story of my relationship with high-end studio production.”
Cox is an O.G. hotwife. For the last few years, she’s been sharing the highlights of her hotwife life on the OnlyFans account she shares with her husband, Mr. Cox, who revealed his face on camera for the first time as part of their WIFEY interview. Their marriage was initially monogamous, but they made the decision to open it up a few years ago, as “hotwife themes continued to emerge in our fantasies and bedroom talk,” she explains. Fans love their shared updates, and Cox attributes this popularity to their audience’s growing desire to get more intimate glimpses into the lives and personalities of their favorite porn performers.
“WIFEY draws from this attraction to a story to watching real people, to bringing emotion and realism into the scene instead of watching an actor play a role,” Cox explains. In addition to a glimpse into her marriage — and how hotwifing ultimately led Mr. and Mrs. Cox to the porn industry — viewers will get “a very sexy, energetic scene with Dan Damage, Hollywood Cash and myself, as my husband sits back to enjoy and also share some footage from his POV.”
Jessi Rae first gravitated toward WIFEY “because it felt like a fresh, authentic approach to adult content,” she explains. “The concept tapped into a dynamic that’s more common than most people realize, and I appreciated being part of something that explored that in an honest and open way.”
Although Rae is “no longer in the hotwife lifestyle,” she describes it as a “meaningful chapter in (her and her husband’s) relationship,” one she’s thrilled to share with viewers. “They can expect a scene that feels real,” she tells me. “Something that’s equal parts fun, intimate and sexy. There’s genuine chemistry, a few laughs and hopefully the kind of energy that reminds people how great sex can be when there’s trust and joy involved.”
In Rae’s eyes, scenes like the ones she starred in with her husband “allow viewers to connect with us on a more human level,” she says. “When you see real chemistry, laughter and vulnerability, it reinforces that this is an experience between actual people, not just a performance.”
Of course, hotwives don’t have all the fun. Jason Luv, a hip-hop heavyweight with a hefty porn resumé under his belt, jokes, “The U.S. could definitely use a little more hotwifing energy.” In his eyes, nonmonogamy can be a one-way ticket to more intimacy and communication, the antidote to a failing marriage for both partners. He plays a horny plus-one in his WIFEY scene, and when I ask for a description of it, he says viewers can “expect to see a couple mentally renew their vows, one stroke of Luv at a time.”
Cox echoes the sentiment that WIFEY could open up some much-needed conversations. “Some days I feel like the world is making great progress around sex and sexuality,” she tells me, “but then I’ll see posts online that remind me there’s still misinformation and toxic influences. Projects like WIFEY shine a positive light on alternative relationship styles in a fun, healthy and sexy way.”
“We can all benefit from that kind of positive ‘hotwife energy,’” she concludes. — Jake Hall
HALL OF FAME TWEETS
Ring, Ring
TOUCH GLASS
A Sexy History of the Martini Glass
Thank you, James Bond
Whether it’s the über-macho James Bond and his “shaken, not stirred” tipple, or burlesque legend Dita Von Teese in her giant stemware, martinis are the sexiest cocktail, hands down — with a lineage, of course, that’s equally hot and heavy.
Prohibition Popularity
Appropriately for such a boozy cocktail, the exact origins of the martini are hazy. The most common guess is that a bartender named Jerry Thomas concocted the world’s first in San Francisco’s Occidental Hotel in 1860, but the martini picked up popularity during Prohibition.
The 1920s saw the rise of underground speakeasies, clandestine jazz performances and red-hot burlesque. The latter of which had been around for decades, but early acts focused more on comedic exaggeration and wink-wink teases than actual nudity. The formula for witty, sexy performance art grew spicier in the ‘20s and ‘30s, and Americans continued sipping on martinis as they watched live strip shows during this time of post-World War I hedonism.
The Bond Effect
Martinis are a key part of James Bond’s mystique, so much so that dedicated movie nerds have made mega-cuts of every “shaken, not stirred” line uttered in 007 history. It’s not the recipe that matters (although bartenders have pretty strong thoughts about it), but the glamour of the martini itself, as well as the dick-swinging self-assuredness of a guy who knows exactly what he wants.
Splash Warning
The martini’s sex appeal also lies in the glass. First unveiled in Paris in 1925, the iconic design uses a long stem and a wide bowl, so your sweaty palms won’t warm your drink too quickly. The Prohibition-era roots of the glass were apparently a factor, too; rumor has it the wide rim was designed so drinks could be quickly and easily poured away in the likely event of a police raid.
More recently, burlesque superstar Dita Von Teese has super-sized the martini glass, using it as a giant, sexy bathtub on stages throughout the world. Her fellow burlesque performers have followed suit. Nowadays, you can’t think of a martini without thinking of a beautiful, scantily-clad woman splashing around in a huge glass. And what could be hornier than that? — Jake Hall
QUIZ TIME
Medieval Sex Toy or Torture Device?
Hurts so good — or just really, really bad?
Look closely, and answer instinctively. Does this give you goosebumps, or make your skin curl?
Scroll all the way to the bottom for the answer.
AN AGE-OLD QUESTION
Do We Always Get Less Horny As We Age?
Grab the lube, it’s time to talk ‘senior sex’
Aging sounds terrifying, and that’s because all we ever hear about it are the horror stories.We’re told that “old people” — the definition of which seems to shift with each passing generation — have nothing in their lives but creaking joints, adult diapers and Fixodent.
And so, in 2019, Swedish porn director Erika Lust did something groundbreaking: She made a movie with Annie and John, a real-life couple in their 70s, entitled Soulsex. The film featured no porn acrobatics, hardcore pounding or elaborate positions. The action was slower and focused on intimacy.
For a brief moment afterward, it felt like the so-called “senior sex revolution” might be imminent. But six years later, aside from a growing number of GILFs on OnlyFans, there’s still scant evidence of old people having sex in pop culture.
Is it true, though, that we always get less horny as we age?
Horniness Has No Age Limit
“Overall, this is a myth,” explains Michelle Smith, a licensed clinical mental health therapist, who has worked with many older couples.
Although our bodies change as we grow older, there’s no guarantee that these changes will impact sexual desire. “In fact, sexual activity and satisfaction can actually increase as we age,” Smith continues, citing “an increased awareness of personal preferences, what turns you on, and how to communicate that with your partner.”
You may have fumbled through awkward one-night-stands in your 20s, but the wisdom and confidence attached to aging can be seriously beneficial to your sex life.
Rethinking Stereotypes
In a 2022 study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior, researchers set out to understand how desire changes as we age. “While men showed higher sexual desire levels on average,” they wrote, “sexual desire was highest among middle-aged individuals in both genders/sexes.”
Although various factors (pain, disability, relationship to sex, etc.) are always at play, it’s clear that youthfulness and a heightened sex drive aren’t as closely linked as we once thought.Plus, think of all the headlines about Gen Z’s “sex recession.”
Doing Things Differently
So yes, we still fuck as we get older, but it might look a little different than it does now. Maybe we slow things down, get a little more sensual, use our hands more often or try easier-to-maneuver positions.
In a 2019 interview with VICE, Annie and John called bullshit on a few myths, including that old guys can’t get hard and that old women can’t self-lubricate. Even if these challenges do crop up, lube and Viagra exist for a reason.
Sure, our bodies age, and some of those changes can absolutely suck. Even the most agile octogenarian might struggle to pump away in the 69 position, but that doesn’t mean they’re not still thinking about it. All signs point to our libido being eternal. — Jake Hall
OLD FAITHFUL
I Taught Myself How to Squirt
Natalie V. has spent the past few years perfecting her technique, and science is on her side
The first time Natalie successfully squirted, she thought her water broke. She wasn’t pregnant, but the big, loud splash and soaked kitchen floor could have had her fooled.
“It sounded like someone took a big glass of water and poured it all at once on the floor,” she tells me. “After that — or once I realized I had just squirted — my body wanted to do it all the time.”
She’s also spent years now perfecting her technique. “First, you have to believe that you can do it,” she tells me. “Then, you have to look up the anatomy, and understand what part to stimulate in order to squirt. Hydration is also super important — you’re not going to squirt if you’re dehydrated. And finally, what makes a difference is taking your time with it when stimulating yourself for it to build up.”
But is it really that automated of a system? And can every vagina-equipped person like Natalie crack the squirting code?
On the latter count at least, teaching yourself how to squirt is technically very possible. “Every biological woman or person born and still having a vagina can squirt, because the mechanism is there,” Sofie Roos, licensed sexologist and relationship therapist, explains. “However, some have a much harder time getting there and might experiment for years with different techniques and sex toys before eventually finding a way that works. Others just can’t help themselves from squirting, so it’s highly genetic whether or not it’s something you do easily.”
Squirting is a reflex response that happens when the front wall of the vagina is stimulated when aroused, Roos explains. Once the stimulation reaches its climax, and if the body is relaxed enough, the pelvic muscles contract, and the stored fluid in the Skene’s glands (or the “female prostate,” also found on the front wall of the vagina) gets squirted through the urethra.
That said, Roos explains, “Squirting requires lots of knowledge about your own body, and the ability to fully relax, and many women need to first explore sex forms such as Tantric sex or Kama Sutra to be able to get there. Tons of women never find a way to squirt, even though they try different ways. It can be due to psychological reasons, or that they never find the physical stimulation they need, or a combination of both.”
“I recommend every woman who’d like to learn how to squirt to invest in a G-spot vibrator, learn how to finger yourself at the front wall of the vagina, as well as to focus on learning to relax and not fight the feeling of peeing yourself,” Roos continues.
Which brings us to one final, crucial clarification: Even though it comes out of the urethra, squirting liquid isn’t urine. Matter of fact, if you feel like you’re about to pee yourself, it means you’re doing it right. It’s just a physiological reflex — so relax, and let go.
Most importantly, though,, make sure to throw down a towel or blanket beforehand because as Natalie points out, “It can really fuck up your sheets.” — Serena Tara
NAUGHTY NURSE (AND DOCTOR)
U.K. Doctor Accused of Pausing Surgery to Have Sex With Nurse
You’re not supposed to do that
Dr. Suhail Anjum, a 44-year-old anesthesiologist at Tameside Hospital in Manchester, England, was fired from his job in 2023 for leaving an active surgery to have sex with a nurse in a nearby utility closet. Anjum and the unnamed nurse were caught in a “compromising position” by a colleague.
Anjum, who was presiding over a gall bladder procedure, returned to the surgery after he was discovered with the nurse, and when pressed on the accusation, he didn’t deny them. However, he did blame them on the “stressful time” he and his wife had been experiencing after she gave birth to a premature baby.
The “comfort break,” as Anjum called it, lasted a total of eight minutes. — Peter Rapine
right or wrong
Answer to the Quiz Above
It should definitely make your skin curl. Despite its somewhat sexy appearance, the Pear of Anguish was allegedly used in Medieval times as a torture device. It could be inserted in any orifice and slowly expanded using a screw mechanism.
Definitely an “ouch” moment. Yet, the Pear of Anguish might, to some, look like an ideal bedroom toy — butt plugs and dilators aren’t so conceptually different after all…
Closing CREDITs
The XXXtra Spicy newsletter is edited, written and curated by Serena Tara, with contributions from Jake Hall and Peter Rapine.